Mental Wellness: Staying steady when everything shifts | Lifestyles

Living in northern Michigan teaches us that change can be sudden and dramatic. One week, the shoreline is frozen and still. Overnight, the ice is melting and spring storms arrive. The seasons shift whether we are ready or not.

Our lives can feel the same way.

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Dana Walker, LLMSW, is a psychotherapist and certified mindfulness teacher at Mental Wellness Counseling. She works with adults, children, and adolescents navigating anxiety, depression, relationship challenges, parenting stress, and life transitions. To learn more or to schedule with Dana, visit www.mentalwellnesscounseling.com.